You’ve seen this commercial, right?
Brilliant advertising during the time of year when many of us are experiencing cold weather and an even greater amount of us are feeling the suffocating pressures of the approaching gift-giving holidays.
It makes me wonder where others find their place of solitude and peace.
It seems for me I find the most energy and “rightness with the world” during the moments of Process. Of course the events change. The processes are different. But the exhilarating feeling is always the same in that intoxicating moment when ideas all begin coming together as one, cohesive thought…mmm, pure magic!
Like many of you, those Beach Moments need to be allowed a place to thrive. There are many, many, many things that happen during the day that demand your attention until…well, the day is done and you’re heading to bed. So where can you cultivate places and times during your day for a bit of relaxing on the beach of rejuvenation?
1. Pick the tv shows you’re going to watch that evening, and confine your time to just those shows. DVR the others or better yet, choose to miss them and know that there will always be more.
2. Set a limit (for that evening only) to your online time. Sheesh…not an easy one for me! I have constant information coming in on my phone in the form of status updates on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and countless blogs and online magazines to read. But if I set an alarm and physically put the phone down, I will be more likely to experience free-thought rather than directed-thought from an outside source.
3. Choose time to connect with the people in your house. Being under the same roof together is not the same as sitting down in the proverbial beach chair and sharing a true connection. It doesn’t have to be big discussion but just a time of concentrating on what they’re saying and responding accordingly (and you’ll probably have to go to their ‘beach front’ in order to share the moment.) As parents and spouses, we become very adept at listening and even responding while we’re thinking about something else entirely. Be purposeful about blocking out those other thoughts and noises and hone all your attention in on that one other person you’re sitting with. Just for a few moments of honoring them and what they have to say.
4. Stare out at the beach. Writing this from the middle of the United States means that I can see a beach from my house just about as easily as you can see a unicorn outside your window. But what I can see is a wide, vast, open, sometimes peaceful, sometimes tormented, unending bit of future lying out in front of me. I certainly can’t tame it or even train it, but I can try to live in unison with its rhythms and currents. What events are coming up this week or weekend that might be causing me some stress? What happened today that made me feel peaceful and at ease while riding the wave? Notice those times and be mentally prepared for them. It is difficult to simply look and think in the direction of your future. It is much easier for me to be distracted by all the goings-on on the beach. Who is doing what, where, how. Information devices are distractions, people are distractions, my own weaknesses are a distraction. Yet the benefits of simply being in a moment and staring straight into it, prepares us for the next moment. And the next. It allows us the small capacity to be semi-aware of what the next few moments, days, months will hold – instead of them taking us by surprise and leaving us in a constant state of dog-paddling to reach the top again. Women, in particular, you know when some of those undercurrents are going to occur. Be prepared for them beforehand so that you can ride them, rather than be engulfed by them.
Find your beach.
Your place of peace and surrender.
Creative thinking is generally my place. My relaxing beach.
Where do you find yours?